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YOUR PARENTS WILL BE CRAZY FOR A WHILE:

By Thea Joselow and Beth Joselow

YOUR PARENTS WILL BE CRAZY FOR A WHILE: IT GETS BETTER

Just think about how out of control you feel about this whole divorce thing. Take that feeling and add to it the responsibility of children, a whole lot of guilt about having a marriage come to an end, the need to figure out how to organize a whole new life financially, socially, personally and emotionally. Yeah, your parents seem to have a reason or 12 to be a little bit broken around the edges.

When you watch your parents experiment with solving all their new problems, you may think they are acting a bit crazed, unnatural, or absolutely insane and impractical. It is even possible that they might actually lose their grip on reality as we know it for a while as their lives, not to mention yours, change rapidly and in ways they couldn't have anticipated.

Whether you notice it or not, you yourself are probably doing some pretty strange things as well. Think about it. Did you used to wander around the city at three in the morning, just to get some air before your folks separated? Did you decide to shave off half your hair before or after they went to court? We all can get kind of wild when big, confusing, annoying, painful, difficult things happen to us.

Sometimes you may feel like the people who are supposed to be taking care of you have forgotten how to do that. Try to be patient with them, to walk around in their shoes a little bit before you disqualify them from the parents' hall of fame. You're right, of course, in thinking that because you are the child and they are the adults, they should be taking care of you instead of vice versa. But along with the fact that your parents have a lot of other things to deal with now, we all know that kids have a tendency not to communicate all that well with their parents. Now, especially, they could probably use some filling in on what their kids are thinking and feeling.

* Crazy Parent Syndrome is temporary. It usually goes away as they begin to feel more in control of their lives.

* Speak up instead of suffering in silence. Be clear about your needs and feelings.

Posted on Saturday, February 24, 2007 at 02:49PM by Registered CommenterSite Administrator in | Comments Off

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